How Limits Set Us Free
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Lately I've been thinking about how limits set us free. In particular, I've been thinking about how this concept relates to good health.
I'm a person who tends to feel suffocated by strict schedules, plans, and rules. I thrive on freedom and spontaneity.
But sometimes freedom and spontaneity get me into trouble. For example, I struggle with doing things like:
Setting out clothes the night before (I tell myself, "I don't know what I'll feel like wearing tomorrow.")
Preparing lunches the night before ("I'll just make the lunches tomorrow morning. I'm sure I won't be rushing around or anything.")
Preparing for a trip ahead of time. ("I have plenty of time. I don't need to pack or figure out the details yet.")
Rebelling
I can make up all kinds of excuses. But the fact is that I often rebel from structure-enhancing activities.
Why? Because these activities feel confining, and I simply don't want to do them.
The Result
The result is always the same -- life becomes more rushed, hectic, and frantic than it needs to be. And I find myself thinking (again), "When will I learn?"
I came across a great blog post by Amanda Kirkner, LCSW. In it, she explained that although freedom from boundaries and limitations is appealing, this freedom can create "addiction to behaviors that leave us feeling dissatisfied, lonely, and out of control."
However, when we set healthy limits, the outcomes are powerfully liberating.
Liberation
I find this concept interesting. It’s relevant to so many areas of our lives. For example:
I don't have to be organized or plan things in advance. But when I do, I enjoy the liberating feeling of being unhurried, relaxed, and prepared. (I'm working on it... I really am. :)
I don't have to follow a budget or spend my money wisely. But when I do, I gain financial freedom, allowing me to truly enjoy the things I purchase without experiencing worry or guilt.
I don't have to choose healthy foods, get regular exercise, or get plenty of rest. But when I do, I enjoy increased energy and vitality.
How About You?
What are some healthy activities that you find restrictive? Do you choose the path of rebellion, only to find yourself in chains? How might some healthy limitations set you free?
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This post was originally published on 6/20/16 and updated on 4/18/21.
